Dating online can be a challenge all on its own, never mind the trials and tribulations that come along with trying to date as someone within the LGBTQ+ community.
On the other hand, with customizable features on dating apps that allow a person to easily share their interests, values, sexual orientation, and gender identity, it can be argued that it has never been easier to weed out the people that may be a waste of time for you.
Beyond the screen of heteronormativity and stereotypes, how can a bisexual person find their partner on dating apps?
In this article, we will discuss the challenges involved with dating as a bi person, offer tips, and recommend some dating apps that are bisexual friendly.
If you want more advice on bi dating, here is our ultimate guide on all you need to know.
What do I need to know?
The benefits of dating as a bi person
Other than the challenge that comes with finding a partner, the benefit that comes along with bisexuality is that you’re not limited to one specific gender.
You may have your own preferences about what you’re looking for in a partner, but in a general sense you’re able to cast a wider net than other people!
Another benefit of being a bi person is your ability to connect both within and outside of the LGBTQ+ community. You do represent the ‘B’ in that acronym, but you have a unique position to empathize with a variety of different people.
It’s also possible that you have become an important ally for other queer people within the community and educate people you may know that are still struggling to understand LGBTQ+ people.
The challenges and issues
One of the most prevalent challenges that both bi women and men are faced with are the stereotypes about bisexuality.
The main stereotype claims that all bi people are promiscuous and likely to cheat on their partner with the opposite gender. Even though some people may cheat, it’s not exclusive to bisexual people and that harmful misconception should be stopped.
For example, even if a bi woman was in a straight relationship with a man, it shouldn’t be assumed that she is actively looking for a woman to date. It also shouldn’t be assumed that she wants a polyamorous relationship.
If you are interested in opening your relationship to polyamory, that’s something that should be discussed with both your current and future partners to make sure that everyone is consenting to the decision.
A second issue for bi people that is rooted in biphobia is the belief that being bi is either a phase or isn’t a real sexuality. That belief is harmful and can lead to people being afraid to come out for fear of being bullied or not accepted among their peer groups.
Even if a bi woman has only ever dated straight men, that doesn’t mean that her sexuality is invalid.
Tips for if you just came out
If you just came out, whether it was to your best friend or family, that’s great! We’re glad that you are beginning to live life as your true self. We know it can be scary to come out, especially if you’re not sure about what other people’s reactions might be. Here are a few tips for if you have just stepped out of the closet:
- Be proud of yourself: It can be difficult and scary to discover a sexual identity that is outside of the heterosexual lens, and even more scary to tell other people, but make sure that you celebrate yourself for being true to yourself.
- Don’t let anyone put you down: Whether it may be straight people or people within the queer community, don’t let anyone tell you that bisexuality isn’t real. Even if it’s your first time looking to date someone of the same gender, your identity is valid.
- Be careful of “unicorn hunters”: If you aren’t interested in a threesome, try to be careful of couples that call themselves “unicorn hunters“.
Generally, it’s a hetero couple that most often seeks out bisexual women to hook up with and “spice up” their own sex life. They often will not consider the third person in the group to be part of the relationship and that can cause an imbalance of power as the outsider.
Bisexual dating online
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What are the best dating apps for bisexual people?
If you’re looking for someone to go on a first date with as a bisexual person, what are the best dating apps you can use? Below, we will give our recommended list of dating apps for you to try.
On OkCupid, there are 22 gender identity and 20 sexual orientation options to choose from that can help you showcase your true self on your profile. This app also has a plethora of ‘Match Questions’ that you can fill out to help weed out anyone that doesn’t align with your values or opinions about various topics.
We recommend Tinder not only because it has one of the largest user bases for dating apps, but it also allows for flexibility with identity. They have a list of sexual orientations that includes bisexual to choose from, and they allow people to type in their own gender identity. Tinder helps protect its users by not allowing you to message anyone unless you match with each other first.
This app is an interesting option, especially for bisexual women. Bumble was designed to allow women to make the first move on dating apps, even if you’re also looking to date other women. Also, Bumble is generally catered towards people that are trying to find long-term relationships rather than hookups.
This dating app isn’t as well-known, but it’s a dedicated place for bisexual people that are looking for dates. Their website claims that there are currently almost 2.5 million users on their app, which isn’t a large number, but it may be easier to find someone you’re interested in with a dedicated app for the bi community.
When should you tell your date you’re bi? Do you have to?
Sharing personal information about yourself to other people should always happen on your own terms and when you feel comfortable enough to do it. However, when it comes to bi dating, should you tell your date that you’re bisexual, especially when they’re straight or gay?
Based on an article that was published on Bumble’s website, the popular opinion seems to be that it may be beneficial to let your date know about your sexual identity as soon as possible.
The reason for this is it can help weed out anyone that wouldn’t accept you for who you truly are, and avoid wasting anymore of your time in the process.
As part of the harmful stereotypes that still affect bi people, there are unfortunately other people that aren’t interested in dating people that identify as bisexual.
One of the problems with people that follow the stereotypes is that a bi person can accidentally appear to be either straight or gay, depending on the gender of the person they are dating. This can wrongfully lead the other person to believe that you’re not bisexual, even though that is not how bisexuality works.
Something that a number of bisexual people seem to be moving towards is dating other bisexual or queer people that understand the validity of their identity. It’s of course not required to date other bisexual people, but it may help to prevent the misconceptions that unfortunately still exist even within the LGBTQ+ community.
Here are some other miscellaneous tips for bisexual people:
- If you have not yet come out and are scared to, that’s okay. Your safety should be your priority and you can come out whenever you feel ready.
- Try displaying your bi identity on your dating profile. If someone is not interested in dating a bi person, then it should deter them from matching with you in the first place.
- It’s not required for you to date other genders and have different sexual experiences in order for you to label yourself as bisexual.
I’m Felix (he/him). I’m a 26-year-old queer transgender man who currently resides in the temperate city of Victoria, British Columbia, Canada after escaping the northern ‘Cariboo’ region. Felix received a Bachelor of Arts degree with a major in Pacific and Asian Studies from the University of Victoria in 2017 and has worked towards building a freelancing career for himself ever since.
After all, the student loans need to at least feel worth it, right?
Despite working as a barista by day, Felix is determined to make a name for himself as an author while simultaneously sharing his passions by night.
Some subjects he is passionate writing about include the LGBTQ2IA+ community, social justice issues, history, and culture. One of Felix’s life goals is to write at least one book in his lifetime, although finding the motivation to write a series rather than a single book would be welcomed with open arms.
A few previous career ideas included an archaeologist or lawyer, but Felix soon discovered neither of those paths would be quite right for him. Despite his love of history, the majority of his existence is spent inside, shielded safely away from the elements. That kind of luxury is not possible for an archaeologist. On the other hand, Felix may be passionate about social justice issues, but his inability to separate emotion from debate could potentially spell disaster as a lawyer in court.
Beyond his writing passions, Felix’s other interests include:
- Being awake at ungodly hours of the night.
- Scrolling through TikTok that he has become unironically addicted to since the beginning of the COVD-19 pandemic.
- Trying to stop his roommate’s cat from attacking his ankles.
- Telling himself that he needs to finish playing The Witcher 3 game.
Out of those four, TikTok has occupied most of his free time.
As someone that has first-hand experience with some of the issues that transgender people face on a daily basis, Felix strives to write the most accurate, inclusive, and informative articles for Datingroo. The first article he has written is titled, “Tinder for Trans People: Is It a Safe Space?”.
That article was surprisingly relatable for him to write as Felix has some experience with using Tinder and Bumble in his quest to find a long-term partner. Unfortunately, he is still searching for ‘the one’, but nonetheless he was excited to bring his experience to the table and discuss the pros and cons of using Tinder as a transgender person.
He believes that education and exposure are some of the most important ways to spread awareness not only about the LGBTQ2IA+ community, but any other social issue that arises. He may not be a politician or a lawyer, but writing can be another effective way to inspire change from all corners of the globe.
In an increasingly digital age, ideas can spread around the world in seconds. Depending on the issue at hand, a movement could potentially stir up worldwide support from information that has been accessed and spread online. That said, the possibility to be able to inspire change motivates Felix to continue writing about what’s most important to him.